Tuesday, July 12, 2011

the best fight ever

for ages i've been inspired by, 
and wanting to attempt the holi color fight i'd initially spied over at 

i finally had the chance! 
matt & i had four high schoolers from our church come stay at our house a couple of weeks ago,
as sort of an alternative to summer camp. 
we had a pretty intense program that we came up with every day,
but we also made sure to include an element of play or creativity.
i was able to buy Holi colors at one of the Indian stores in berkeley.

the color fight was a surprise!
we brought the kids down to our backyard,
made them keep their eyes closed, gave each of them a pile of pigmented powder,
turned on some awesome indian dance music,
and let the games begin!

it was awesome,
and once m got over her initial hesitation, m fully embraced the game.



 (love love love this picture and the pigment she's shaking out of her ponytail)














super fun!
{i didn't get that color-fied because i was photographer/ruby holder}

Thursday, July 7, 2011

girl time

sorry for the long absence.
this summer has been packed with sickness, house guests, and business,
so i've been neglecting the blog.
plus it has been more fun to play with my girls than sit at a computer.


there are moments with these two that are intoxicating-
i don't intend that dramatically.
i don't want to be anywhere else but sitting on the floor listening to them enjoy having a sister.
lately these two are hilarious with each other;
giggling, egging each other on, playing together, keeping each other awake at bedtime, 
mimicking each other.
in those moments i just soak up their laughter and joy-
it is almost magical, and to be honest, i need those moments to remind me that they exist when the screaming/not sharing/needy times happen.

i've been snapping lots of pictures, and i have loads to catch you up on, but for now, 
here are some glimpses of our girl time the last few weeks.
sweet ruby is finally getting some teeth in (about time, right!? she's 13 months!)
in the past 2 weeks she has gotten two bottom teeth, and 1 1/2 top teeth.

the girls have had lots of hang time with m out of school in june
and lots of art time
a rare moment of stillness
(a minute later m was squishing ruby in a bear hug)

no school=fun!
ruby's personality is coming out more and more, and even though they are so different, she is just as feisty as her big sister. 
(matt says that comes from me, but i contend my husband is full of feist himself)

ruby (on her own trajectory) is starting to crawl,
with lots of cheering and encouragement from her big sister

this week we went back to our regular schedule with m's summer school.
she loves it of course, and i love seeing my mommy friends at school.
but i've loved this time with both of my girls
(well, not so much when we were all violently sick, but the rest of the time)

i'll bask in this season of minimal arguing, lots of snuggling, most-of-the-time sharing, 
and two little ones who want to spend all day with me for as long as it lasts.
lots of work to do today,
so that's all for now!

happy july!

Thursday, June 30, 2011

times.

yes, i did just reference that super awesome elementary-school-era ability to stop a game, a conversation, or time, by saying "times!"

my life is currently on hold.

four high schoolers are staying at our house this week and i didn't quite realize how all-consuming it would be. it is kind of a lot to parent and also run a homemade camp type time.

although actually, you'd be amazed how many times a day i hear the same words out of my three year old's mouth and the kids' mouths.

m and ruby are basking in all of the "big kids" at the house.

hope you're having a good week!

Friday, June 24, 2011

the worst ever.

just the other day i thought to myself, "we haven't really experienced a crazy sick experience with the girls yet (as in throw up, other messy bodily functions etc etc.)"

funny that i had that thought-

not really funny haha, more like funny ironic.

in the middle of the night wednesday, some monster came alive in my body and i raced out of bed to the bathroom, where i spent a significant amount of time.

i'll spare you the details, of which there are many, but soon after i got sick, so did both of the girls. we think we ate something that rocked our worlds.

short version?
a. my husband is a rockstar. he changed his work schedule around to stay home and take care of us, since i was basically incapacitated for 30 hours. meanwhile, our daughters were also getting rid of anything and everything in their little bodies. i'm not kidding you, he caught throw up in his hands multiple times.

b. let's just say our girls don't know how to throw up yet. so, lots of changes of bedding and pajamas and clothes later, we have a full load of sick-laundry.

c. being sick is just gross. i mean, really gross. especially throw up sick. especially when you are as sick or sicker than your kids.

today we are on the mend, but i think i have a new least favorite genre of parenting activities, far outpacing some of my other least faves of parenting- packing for a trip, ear infections, sleep training, and long roadtrips in the heat.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

awesome discovery

my first grade yearbook.
can you find me?

here you go, in case you needed some help:

"mommy, i wanna see more bono"

oh, don't we all, my sweet little m.
(i swear my daughter said those words unprompted)

it's the moment you've all been waiting for, i know. (cough, cough. maybe not)
you can all collectively exhale, my u2 post is here.


first of all, if you aren't well acquainted with the unofficial rules of the fake u2 government, take a quick look-see here (which also includes the play by play of the last u2 show i went to back in 2009; i had shorter hair, was with child and across state lines, & it's a good story)


then, thanks to wise people in my life who told me, "don't be ridiculous. of course you are going. you'd be so sad if you missed it", i decided to figure out how to make it work, kids and all. yes, i would have been so sad. (especially since my husband could hear the concert from our house. yep. that's right. he texted me with song titles as he heard them and was spot on. can you imagine if i was at home and could hear the concert in the distance? breaking my heart already.)

we had general admission tickets for the stadium field, which means that depending on what time you show up, you can either be front row, really close, or smack dab in the midst of the sweaty, teeming masses. 

my brother jonathan crashed at our house so that we could go get in line early tuesday morning. i nursed ruby somewhere in the fives, and then we headed to the stadium around 6 am the morning of the concert. the stadium gates were opening at 7 am. as we drove up there were less than ten cars in line at the stadium gates.

drama immediately ensued. 
normally, there is a list, and order, and a self policing system for u2's general admission line.
we got out of our car to sign in.
no list.
some random sleazy guy who smelled like stale beer was reassuring us that we were with him & 
that we were all adults and would easily get a spot in the line.
oh, except the "official" non-official line was over at the BART train entrance with about 150 people signed in already. 
of course some of this drama is what is great about sitting in line for a u2 concert- 
you're there for a while so it might as well be interesting.
i'm not going to lie-i forced random sleaze guy to write numbers down on a list & 
then i got my own sharpie out of the car and we wrote the numbers on our hands.
as 7 am approached we hopped in our cars and lined up at the gate to race in and park, 
and then to race to the line where we'd figure out whose line was official or not.

7 am:
the slowest person ever in front of us, chit chatting with security guard as the other cars zipped into the lot and parked and the now hundreds of people lined up at BART ran through their gate and sprinted to the line. my poor brother was so thrown off that when it was our turn to go through the gate he sped right past the parking people without paying the $40 to park (side note-our ticket was not much more than that. ridiculous.) we could hear them screaming behind us "$40! $40!" it reminded me of the 80's movie better off dead when the paper boy is always yelling "i want my $2!" (also, we did go back later and pay them) 

7:05 am: out of the car and we sprint to a line! only to discover it is not a real line, so we sprint for another line, where we settle in and wait. for a long time. so much craziness over the numbers and the line and who should be where and we finally all just stay put and claim a spot. (is this comical or what? i know it is kind of ridiculous.)
me, sleepy, camped out.
luckily we had lots of visitors throughout the day: nancy (who witnessed u2 government firsthand,) amy (who just gave birth to a baby this week!) along with her son judah, my brother aaron, matt and my girls.

is it scary that i recognized people from other tours and other shows?
kind of.

it's pretty fun to go with my brother. the first time we went together was back in 1999 when he showed up at my place where i lived with my roommates and he had general admission tickets to the popmart tour. i'd gone that night to the concert with my roommate amy, and we'd sat all the way at the tippety top of the stadium in the nosebleeds. johnny surprised me with tickets for the next night and we started a tradition of going early to line up to get in as close as we could. every time is an adventure. over time our other brother aaron came too, and at this concert all four of us went! (i still want to drag my mom along sometime!) 

7:10 am-3 pm: wait. intermittently security would come by and tell us when we'd have to get our stuff put away, when we'd get our wristbands to get in, when they'd open the doors, or just to mediate between line cutters and the rest of us. wait more. listen to people tell their stories of flying around the country to go to u2 shows. listen to people strategize their spot. listen to people discuss the set list. (meanwhile i read trashy celebrity trash magazines, textedbono to pull them on stage.

around 1 or so matt came with my girls & my brother aaron to visit, which was my favorite part of the day. i wanted m to come stand with me in line for a bit, but right then some line jumper was wreaking havoc and the security was getting all crazy. (i contend that if fake u2 government had worked properly this skirmish wouldn't have happened)


they post a map of the stadium, so checked it out to decide our strategy for getting in to the front row.

i've already gone on way too long in this post, so i'll spare you any more details of our wait. wrist-banded, and lined up single file, they opened the gate at 4 pm on the dot and with the sound of "walk, walk, don't run, please walk, slow down" from every security guard, we fast-walked through the ticket area and to the field. insert my brother and i into this video below and this is exactly what it's like:


we got blocked on our side of the stage so i grabbed johnny and we raced across the stadium to the other entrance...still speedy enough to end up here:

against the barrier in the front row!
here's our view of the stage:
the funny thing is, once you race in to the field then you wait again.
we waited from 4 until 7:15
(oh wait, there was an opening opening act somewhere in the sixes, but they were awful)
no leaving to pee or fro drinks or food.
(well if you are in another spot you can, but then you always risk losing where you are)
lenny kravitz came on around 7:15 and put on a really great show.
(are you gonna go my way?
uh, yes lenny, i am.
by the way-lenny weighs a hundred pounds and looks 25.)

 
and then, we waited some more as the stadium filled up behind us.

finally...
so maybe we did some singing along
you have a really different view of the stage from the front- you can't see the rest of the stage or video screens at all really-so i think it is probably a very different experience.
there was a lot of this:



and here's the thing.
i loved it.
(shocking newsflash i know)
it wasn't my favorite u2 concert ever, probably because there are other albums i've liked more where i wanted to hear every song off of the album. but i loved being there with my brother, and i loved a bunch of the songs they did play- especially some of the older ones. (they didn't play my fave songs from their most current album) 

of course, i realize that there are plenty of reasons to think u2 and their concerts are over-hyped: i know it is stadium rock, and that they do the same things at every concert- have lots of singing along, play these anthems with catchy choruses, shout out the name of your city to get a collective woo-hoo and tell you what great lives they've had thanks to you being a fan. many elements are formulaic (but they work), and there is no doubt it is a spectacle.

i've thought in the last week about why there is something that happens for me listening to this band. you know how a song or a smell or a certain food can bring a moment in your lifetime rushing back at you? u2's songs bring back so many moments in my life- from the first hand-me-down tapes i got when i was 10 years old, to meeting one of my best friends at my new high school during p.e. when i overheard her singing a u2 song, to my mom driving me to see rattle and hum in another town when i was 13, to my first amnesty international membership i signed up for in ninth grade thanks to bono's encouragement....(well, you get the idea, i'll stop there since i am old and this post is long enough)  suffice it to say, i can mark so many small and big moments in my life accompanied by this band.
(love this song-we were right in front of whoever filmed this clip)

and so maybe there are over 60,000 people surrounding me, and the massive stage apparatus looms above me streaming video and lights, but somehow i'm transported back to my house on brookside road in elkins park on a saturday morning in 1986, where i'm rewinding and replaying sunday bloody sunday over and over in between dusting the livingroom furniture. it's just me learning the words, singing along, and wearing out the cassette.



Monday, June 20, 2011

uh

spoke too soon on double posts.

see you in the morning!

we have a winner!

we have a winner for our lovely & amazing giveaway!
so many examples of lovely and amazingness in our lives-
thanks for sharing your many examples of people either going through really hard stuff, or that make others lives a little better, or that somehow make your own life more whole.

it made me want to make more artwork to send to each one of you!
instead of choosing from examples that were equally wonderful, 
i turned to a random number generator that picked...
which means daniella,
who lives far away from oakland in seattle
(and is pretty l & a herself)
will be getting a little something in the mail soon to share with her mentor barbara.

congrats, daniella! (and thanks for your nice comment)

let me know if you guys liked having a giveaway & next time i craft something up, 
i'll do another giveaway, just for fun.

also, we'll see, i might just rock two posts today-
i have my u2 post waiting in the wings, 
so check back in later if you need a little more blog action on a monday.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

{happy father's day}

yesterday was one foiled attempt after another to orchestrate some fun father's day surprises.
but according to m father's day is about decorations & flowers,
so we'll improvise.

happy father's day to my matt.
i love watching him as a dad
 to m
 to ruby
and a dad-figure to some of our little friends 
who need one

i learn new ways to be patient, creative, silly, and forgiving all the time from him.

grateful that my girls have an engaged, intentional, loving daddy.

hooray for good dads!

Friday, June 17, 2011

trouble

1. i thought m was downstairs with matt
2. matt thought m was upstairs with me.
3. it was very, very quiet.
4. suddenly we realized that 1 & 2 meant that m was somewhere all by herself.
5. matt opened the bathroom door and i heard, "oh m, what have you done"
6. it doesn't look like much here, but our very quiet daughter had snuck into the bathroom and proceeded to condition her hair, the tub, her hands, the floor and a towel with half a very large bottle of my very expensive conditioner.

7. she's never felt so silky smooth!

happy friday!
hope you get into some nice, clean trouble yourselves this weekend!
(p.s. don't forget about entering my giveaway!)