Thursday, March 25, 2010


But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely.

Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

~Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

here are two of my dearest, safest friends:
nancy grace, with micah, who is 4 months younger than little m.
amy nicole, with judah, who is eight months younger than little m.

amy, nancy and i have been friends a long time.
real, true friends-who-have-seen-it-all, heard-it-all, and who still love each other.

when we had kids within months of each other, matt said, "you three can't do anything by yourselves." ha. maybe so. or maybe we just like living life's seasons with each other.

last night, after our kids had all gone to sleep, amy and nancy came over and we made chocolate chip cookies (classic), sat around in the kitchen and talked. and listened. and laughed. and talked over each other. and switched topics constantly and then came back again to what we were talking about earlier. we figured out plans for each others' lives. we were each others number one fans. we ran out of time before we ran out of conversation. as they got into their cars to go home to their babies and their husbands, our laughter spilled out into the darkness and we shouted final thoughts to each other across the quiet street.

it was one of those nights that we used to have every single night
before we were married
& had families of our own.

and it was perfect.

do you ever have those moments where you share a moment or an hour or a day with a good friend, and later you think to yourself, "that's why we have been friends for so long."

it was that kind of night.
that's why we have been friends for so long.


  1. funny that you posted this now. i just returned from a 4 day visit with my best friend, Allison, in texas. i have known her for 14 years and there is nothing that i can't tell her or share with her - good or bad. it was a biter sweet visit. sweet to have fun, laugh, talk, and just be ourselves. bitter to have to leave and fly back 1000's of miles home. but there's always texting, phone calls, skype, and facebook to keep us connected out the ass. friends = amazeballs 2010

    i love you :)

  2. i'm tearing this morning. it was an awesome night. what a great post. love you friend. want more nights like that

  3. I love this. Moments like these with dearest dearhearts are all too rare these busy days - so glad you had a lovely, cookie-filled night with your dearests.

  4. I love this post - it brings me back to our times with you 3 Benavides girls and us 5 Selkirk girls. Oh how our lives have changed. Wish I could have been there for some of your perfect chocolate chip cookies, they really are the best ones I have ever had! Brought me back to times with you girls, thanks for the post.


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