sorry, friends, i never really finished
our iep story. i've been slammed with work (which is good) and staying up until 2 am many days in a row (that part is not good,) so i haven't been posting much. i won't draw it out any longer.
here is my version of short* and sweet:
(*matt might contest that i ever say anything in a way that resembles a short version)
mission:
work with our district to get m appropriate services for the rest of this school year and next year by m's third birthday. (
which was yesterday) i had MAJOR nervous belly.
it was a big meeting:
matt +
his mom pam +
m's therapist +
m's teacher +
all of the district people
(psychologist + program coordinator + speech/language pathologist +
teacher of the deaf +diagnostic center specialist + auditory specialist) +
me =
ELEVEN people
all around one table
the program coordinator
(who, as a sidenote, always has the cutest shoes-every single time i see her i want her shoes)
diffused some of the stress by reminding us that this shouldn't be stressful,
and that we had time to end up on the same page.
we went first, and after matt talked (because i made him-i knew i would cry)
i ended up talking too- and of course (shocking,) i cried.
what can i say?
i cry.
everyone took turns sharing their assessment and evaluation of m.
(this took a while)
we still had no idea what was going to be offered,
so as nice as everyone was, i was still anxious and emotional.
besides, hearing two hours of evaluations of your child is kind of stressful,
even if you're used to being in that context.
i'll spare you the many details and get to the punchline.
at the end the program coordinator (aka cute shoes) said,
"well,
we were going to offer you
this
(and she rattled through a quick list which did not include m staying at her current school-
in fact it did not offer her any school at all)
but,
i read your parent assessment before the meeting
and i hear your concerns.
i think what you are asking for is appropriate
and i am going to recommend instead
that m
continue her existing services
(which means we got exactly what m needed & what we recommended:
3 days a week of school and therapy at her school for the deaf!)"
i was shocked.
then cute shoes went on to say
she thought m needed 2 more days of school a week at a mainstream preschool to get ready for transitioning next year into a mainstream setting full-time.
and that this would be a big transition so even though we legally don't need to meet for another year she wants to meet every 4 months or so to check in and make sure m is doing ok in two school contexts.
(sidenote: this part i did not like so much since it means 5 days a week of school for my little three year old who i like a lot & like being with rather than just shuttling her to school. add in getting out the door for church sunday mornings and that makes 6 days a week that my toddler has to head out of the house with a purpose. i'm working through this aspect of our iep since it was a very strong recommendation from cute shoes, and was even written into the iep as one of the conditions for her continued services at her current school.)
so in the end we are getting great services for m to get her ready for going to a mainstream preschool in a year:
*3 days a week school at her current school
*3 sessions therapy a week at her current school
*1 time a month an itinerant teacher will check in & work with her
at the mainstream pre-school co-op she'll be at
*an fm system for her to use at the mainstream preschool to help her hear the teacher better
(and we are waiting to hear if we'll get reimbursed for our transportation to her current school,
which adds up - especially these days and covers gas but not the bridge toll)
so you want to know why i subtitled this one "the one where i learned a lesson"?
because i went into this iep with a worst case scenario mindset
(it's my usual coping mechanism in stressful situations.)
and
i was proven
wrong.
there, i said it.
we got the best services possible.
my worst case scenario routine has now failed me multiple times in the last few months;
in circumstances i had predicted and assumed the absolute worst would happen,
only to be completely shocked by a positive outcome.
so maybe (just maybe) i should go into situations
with higher expectations, less worry and a little more hope.
(but don't quote me on that, especially you, husband!)
(final sidenote- yesterday, when someone from the district stopped by for us to sign the revised iep,
i asked her a couple of questions about logistics for our file going forward; she kind of shrugged and said, "to be honest i don't really know. you are kind of an unusual situation. this never really happens that we continue paying for another program, so i don't know. this is a very unusual circumstance."
so here's to cute shoes, best case scenarios and little miracles, like m's iep.)